The Men We Need – Some inspiring male characters in Bollywood
“Oh, so you are a feminist, you hate men then!!” – a very common question and misinterpretation of feminism. The whole idea of feminism is not about hating men or women-above-men.
It’s all about shattering the walls of patriarchy to let people of all genders live a meaningful life that they always craved for The idea of women empowerment saw an upsurge in women making it to the forefront, though at times with ‘conditions applied’.
We have strong women who are bold to make their own living and chase their paths without fear. Between all this empowerment thing, we somewhere forgot to teach our men to live with these empowered women.
“Feminism is not about making women stronger, women are already strong. It’s about how the world perceives this strength”, a well said statement by GD Anderson sums up the true essence of the concept.
We should be fortunate to have significant male characters who broke this notion and are shown as someone who respects and adore so-called ‘empowered women’. First on the list, Kumud Mishra in Thappad. A divorce is usually not well received by Indian families.
In Thappad we saw a father who stood by his daughter’s decision to divorce because, like her, he too believed that she deserved to be treated with respect and have an identity of her own. After watching Thappad, you will fall in love with Amrita’s extremely loving and supporting father as much as you will fall in love with Amrita.
There exists a contemporary image for Indian husbands and many of the men in our society abide by that preconceived image. Manav Kaul as Asok, a loving and supportive husband of Sulu breaks the notion and shows that it is not always the wife’s duty to provide for the domestic demands all the time. In a world where people forbade women to step out late at night, Asok is not at all apprehensive to drop his wife to work as a late-night chat show RJ.
We are never forgetting Sunny Singh from Dil Dhadakne Do!! Though Aisha Mehra(Priyanka Chopra), his childhood sweetheart is stuck in a marriage where her identity is not valued and respected, Sunny reminds Aisha of what she is truly worth and that her hard work needs to be acknowledged and celebrated.
Unlike Aisha’s husband Manav, Sunny didn’t see just ‘wife’ in her, rather he saw a successful, independent woman whom he still loved. Aisha’s cousin who blurps out ‘I love you’ to Sunny, is representative of all of us who fell in love with him instantly.
Malti from Chapaak was devasted and stuck in life. Amol was that ray of hope who pulled her out of dejection and taught her to fight for herself and others.
He made her fall in love with herself again, her real self, not the outer beauty, but the inner soul that makes one beautiful. Being in a society where women are asked to be content and not complain about what went wrong(big or small), Amol with patience and determined will is undoubtedly a chain breaker.
It is men like these who are going to pluck the roots of patriarchy and are the ones who will be the flagbearers to the destruction of the stereotyped cultural consciousness. And with this, we have come to the end of our Woman Up Series. Stay updated for more posts!!
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